Compatibility first, let love trail behind.

He sees her, overtime or could be instantaneously, he likes who he saw,somehow he fell in love, she reciprocated, both of them wants to be together, and then a union births.

Love seems to be in the air but ironically, incessant misunderstanding became their regular lot. Some of the quarrel gets really messy and oftentimes involve the interference of a third party for peace to reign. But then the peace experienced by the duo is somewhat temporal before the cycle repeats itself all over again.

A perfect relationship is when two imperfect people decides to remain inseparable and are willing to make 'their unlike charges an attraction' (that came from my physics lesson way back Secondary School).

It's not fussy, my point is,love isn't enough reason to want to stay with a partner, compatibility is key.

 I have had my fair share of love stories becoming sour in time past, and just like every normal girl,I once craved my prince charming to one day ride on a horse and gently sweep me off my feet (that's what happens when you make kids watch too much of Cinderella stories), but that's by the way.

As I grew and began to 'ex' members of the opposite sex, (don't ask me if that meant exes), I saw the need to find someone  with whom I'm compatible and truth is it's not just about falling in love (if only you'll agree that love sucks).

With the upsurge of wives stabbing their husbands to death over an argument so heated and vice versa, one who doesn't want to die a gruesome death needs to pay attention to details that seems irrelevant to people of the world.

It would not have begun that day, there would have been traces of incompatibility staring them in the face from the beginning of the relationship but love seem to have obstructed their sense of reasoning, instead they remained glued to one another as against calling it quits while both parties are still very much alive.

  And in as much as I do not ascribe to blaming the devil all of the time for issues which God had given us an 'uncommon' common sense to trash out all by ourselves,if only you knew the number of times the devil kept mum, and never interfered on some issues that bothers on us all. That guy is busy in hell constructing mansions, kidding though.

Lovers who are not compatible and are not willing to maturely trash out their differences thereby maintaining one accord do not have a business being together. They will only end up feeding gossip blogs with the needed headline to stay afloat with 'touching stories', after one of them must have been awaiting trial having murdered the other.

The world's population is well over seven billion , so why be murdered or be a murderer over whom you could have possibly replaced?, ( I know there are other factors involved in making a good union according to relationship experts in which I am not one), but from my layman's observation , I believe a high priority should be placed on the compatibility of partners than being in love.

Let me briefly buttress my write up with a case study,analysed from a personal point of view though;

   One Mrs Maryam Sanda,from Abuja, who stabbed her husband,Mr Haliru Bello (now deceased) son to a former PDP chairman to death while arguing over a text message probably indicating that the husband was involved in an extra marital affairs. But in as much as I could only guess what would have transpired between them with what we could gather from the news, an argument ensued and she stabbed him to death before driving him to the hospital where he gave up the ghost.

Analysing my supposed case study; 

Me thinks she loves her man too much, doesn't wanna share hence was enraged over a love text message suspected to have been sent by a mistress, ( kindly allow me to shoot myself in the leg by countering my defense that she might have butchered him to pieces if she had caught him in the act). At that point which seem to be the peak of her annoyance, seemingly feeling betrayed (most definitely), he 'probably' saw no big deal in it, and if they were compatible enough, he would have 'mastered the art' of how to make her realise there was nothing to it (if truly he wasn't having the affair) and if he was, could have outrightly denied it just to cool her stretched nerves at that moment or to wholly confess if she was wise enough to appreciate a truthful man and thereafter reassure her of his genuine love.
And maybe, they might have settled amicably and nobody gets hurt. And to even think that she drove him to the hospital all by herself is an indication that she couldn't have wanted him dead.

My analysis appeared very simple, though difficult but very realistic.

Compatibility according to Merriam Webster dictionary is 'the ability to exist together without conflict or trouble; going together well', and I put it as when you find one another's company interesting no matter the frequency. 

Let a 'HE' find a female of his kind;females who preferred being lied to are advised to find their kinds,a man who would insist it's not dawn even at twelve noon.
So also ladies who knew their men can't go celibate for a few weeks while away on a business trip hence willing to add a roll of condoms in his bag pack to find their kinds too.

Finally, I say, "let's get compatible first, we will fall in love much later" 

*I'm not a relationship expert,neither am I a lawyer, but just an ordinary writer with an opinion on issues just like anybody would, and that does not make it right in its entirety*