Life is not unfair; Races are just different.

There goes this popular saying ‘life is not fair’. But before you think your life as being unfair, kindly bear this in mind, that, all fingers are not equal.

 Which explains why the rich could be denied the joy of parenthood, and one termed ‘lowly’, barely able to afford a daily meal, births a population enough to make a football team.
Someone highly waged would pay rent all his days, to one who seemed a nonentity.  Another reason why people think life isn’t fair right?

Ever wondered the number of A-list students wandering about unemployed? And the supposed dullards, not only amassing wealth, but became employers of the former. Intelligent students are in fact being employed by school drop-outs. Should I just say this, that the smart ones haven’t actually discovered their lanes, so as to run it differently.

Consider this too, that some people got wedded earlier in life, only to have delayed conception (in some cases), spanning into decades for some even. While those who were termed ‘unlucky’, hence wedded much later, settles down eventually, and are blessed with offspring in due course. Some maintained chastity till the night of matrimony, only to become a barren wife. Amazingly, a lady with several abortions up her collage had to use contraceptives soon after getting married, just to stop her from having more than enough babies. That also seems unfair right?

We cry foul that the good ones end up badly, and then vice versa. What you know not is, everyone of us are indeed blessed, but added to our blessings, are little stints of challenges and ‘unfairness’ that makes us feel that life isn’t treating us fairly. However, that should not be a limiting factor, but instead a motivating factor to discovering ones’ lane.

We are all different and unique, in our different ways. Evidence to attest to this fact is our thumbprints which are distinctively designed. That is a telltale sign that God himself, is aware of the races we are to run differently.

Therefore, when you begin to view life as being unfair, you begin to think evil of those whose life seem perfect, oblivious of the battles they might be fighting in the dark corners of their lives too.

Just because a lot of people chose not to wear their sorrows on their faces like some sort of facials, doesn’t mean their life is perfect. They only chose to run their uniquely different race without much fuss on the lane, that doesn’t seem to work in their favor. I noticed the poor are oftentimes the category of people, who generally feel, they are slammed with the hammer of life’s unfairness the most, oblivious of the fact that the rich also cry.   

Take a cue from the great Otedola family, whom despite having their heir being autistic never wallowed in self pity. Instead, they chose to bask in the euphoria of the goodies life has offered them in lieu. They are not only a success in all areas they have chosen, but are living their life to the fullest, portraying the brighter side to the public, gave less attention to wallowing in self pity on the struggles of managing an autistic son/brother.

So cease adjudging yourself a failure or that you are simply unfortunate, truth is, nobody is until you decide to become the architect of your own misfortune by brooding too much over your life inadequacies.

Life isn’t unfair; it just happens that you are running a race that is different from others around you, if only you can discover your lane.

Harness your regrets into positivity and you would be better off.

Case scenarios;

·        Incessantly being turned down at interviews, while your friends are employed, and supposedly doing fine?  It may be that you’re not just meant to work for someone, so think about that, and discover your own race.

·        Disappointed in relationships when you are clearly justified? Can a bull cohabit with a crocodile? S/He isn’t your race partner so it’ll never work out. Why bother when you are someone’s prayer point for the choice of a life partner.

·        Without a child of your own?  Do not wallow in self pity. Adopt the neighborhood kids as yours and be good to them instead. Mothers are not necessarily a female who births a child, but one who tenders and shows affection, tutors and protects. There’s an orphanage that goes by the name, Ijamido children home founded by an expatriate, Mrs. Willoughby. She never had kids of her own, but dedicated her entire existence into catering for these motherless babies in Nigeria. She is the true definition of Motherhood, and sadly, how many mothers made waves and gained public recognition like she did when she was alive? Yet she never had kids of her own.  

Popular Nigerian actress, now a veteran, Joke Silver was adopted and raised by a woman who had no kids of her own too, but got all the care and attention any biological mother would get. Think less of your childless situation. Tendering to non biological kids might be your race, run it without complaining.

Harness your goods to utmost positivity, it’s not possible to be an outright failure, you just have not been able to discover it.

Let me leave you with two instances from these successful brands;

·        Teju baby face once said that despite the fact that he used to be a seasoned comedian and MC, he soon noticed that the applaud he gets whenever he climbs on the stage of a popular annual comedy show, wasn’t commensurate to the performances he delivers. He noticed Comedians that came after him were better applauded. He then took a back seat, to rediscover him. That was when he came up with the teju baby face show which we all know is not just a success, but has definitely come to stay. He has carved a niche for himself on that field, just because he decides never to feel bad about his not too encouraging career in comedy. He ran a different race from his friends, and he succeeded.

·        Onyemyke is an instagram star, who explained, that he didn’t make waves like his friends who went into music. He also feels his voice sounds better than theirs, but it didn’t take him too long to notice that his race was clearly different from theirs. This he did in form of dishing out of real life advices to his followers. The number of adverts and endorsements he gets lately, is a pointer to the successful brand he had evolved into.

So until you discover your lane to run a uniquely different race, keep searching, and please remember, that Life has never been unfair, races are just clearly different.