MEN ARE 'NOT' STRONG

Many men might skip this going by this caption especially. It clearly derogates a manly ego. But to those that made it here, resist the temptation to see me as a chauvinist.

Men are perceived to be naturally stronger than women. Boys even often put to fore their strength and supposedly domineering mien to the girls.

Anyway, I grew up with no sibling and this had toughened me somehow. Unconsciously though, I had looked forward to the supposed strength of a man since I never really grew up with one. Dad wasn’t always around.

 But guess what I discovered afterwards?

Men are folks whose real nature is never commensurate to the level of strength ascribed to them. 

      This I considered overly hyped.

Unfortunately, they inadvertently try to measure up to what is expected of them. From being required to stay manly and not cry if depressed, to trying too hard to measure up to the societal beliefs which says they must provide for the needs of others, even if it means he has to sacrifice his life. This further makes men vulnerable to breaking down very easily and when they do, it is usually fatal.

Men are not that strong believe me.

 They are only 'active', a good 'forerunner' purportedly created to lead women, and then did I forget to mention, very courageous too.

Talking about life expectancy now, data even has it that men generally have a shorter life span than women.

And trust me that is not a strong attribute.

Strength is supposed to go handy with outright longetivity.

Men are also touted to die earlier at younger ages from a variety of causes like heart disease, cirrhosis of the liver, homicide, suicide etc. Women on the other hand showed a longer life expectancy than men, largely because they tend to engage in lower behaviors that are bad for health, than men do. 

Besides, women enjoy better profit from current advances in health care and other living conditions.

In furtherance to this, even from the start of life and according to www.scientificamerican.com;

“The biological advantage that women have is taken as a certainty, because the mortality of males is higher than that of females from the very outset of life. In the absence of any outside influence which could differentiate the mortality between the sexes. Male mortality is between 25 to 30 percent greater than female mortality. The genetic advantage of the female is evident. When a mutation of one of the genes of the X chromosomes occurs, female have a second X to compensate. Whereas, all the genes of the X chromosomes of males express themselves, even if they are deleterious. More generally, the genetic difference between the sexes is associated with a better resistance to biological aging. Furthermore, female hormones and the role of women in reproduction, have been linked to greater longetivity.  Estrogen for example, facilitate the elimination of bad cholesterol, and thus may offer some protection against heart disease. Testosterone on the other hand has been linked to violence and risk taking”

Funnily enough, women sometimes subconsciously show an unmatched level of strength over men. Take a quick check at varying Organizations that measures an employee’s performance based on his or her level of physical/mental strength, and alertness. Women who takes lead, does so with a wider margin to the trailing male.

 There was a story about an helpless Indian widow who had no qualification to get a decent job, yet denied site jobs just because she was a woman. The unyielding job hunt frustrated her so much that she had to disguise as a man to get a factory work that employs just men.

 For over a decade, she smartly worked her ass off and in no time became the favorite of her employers who then made her a supervisor. With this, she was able to train all her children in school and until her last child graduated before she walked up to her employer, decked in her usual overall, her breast and tummy carefully tucked away via the use of bands to reveal her sex and then resigned. A clear indication of the saying;

“What a man can do, a woman can do it better”

Needless to say men are bad emotional managers too. A woman could suffer domestic violence for decades and still appeared happy even to her own kids.

Men can’t match this.

 A man would have issues at work for instance, only begin to dissociate from allies till he is able to get his shit back together. In as much as this might not debar him from providing for his family, he oftentimes ends up a recluse. So bad many guys had lost supposedly good girls as a result of being unable to manage their emotions in one of their low moments.

No thanks to the fact that men bottle up a lot of emotions, they become susceptible to getting depressed and even death. They have ego, not wanting to discuss their issues with people, women especially, and this has accounted for most of their wrong decisions too.

Generally bad at multi-tasking, men tend to take each task as it comes so that they won’t end up messing it all up. A woman could be a stay-at-home mum, do the laundry, same time attending to meals in the kitchen and working on her laptop and almost at the same time attending to baby-pooh. There are also career women that are married and with kids too, yet looks so dashing. They are five men rolled into one.

How I wished duties were switched and men could help out with child birth, the world’s population would have greatly reduced. Trust me they would never want to taste a second experience.

One fantastic quality of men however is their leadership skill, which must have informed the reason why God made them the head of the home.

However, to all men; appreciate all the women around you. They represent a figure of who you might find difficult to be, but you are a clear definition of what they can be very conveniently.

And please don’t contend this.

And to the women, know this that; it is okay for him to cry. He should be able to show his weak side and appear vulnerable. It doesn’t make him a weakling.     

  At least, Jesus once wept too.


Picture model: Michael B Jordan
Source: Internet